Convincing Confidence Day 4: Confidence Without Arrogance

“Confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud.” — UnknowN

Who are the people you admire the most?  Is it the ones that have strong, over-opinionated voices, where everyone knows less than they do?  Is it those people who should be admired because of the way they look and sound?  Is it the people who stand proud, shoulders back, and say very little?  They don’t push their way into every conversation; they don’t look to be the center of attention.  Convincing confidence is not loud, but it does hold a level of strength.  A smile, not a frown, a steady voice, not an arrogant or ego-driven voice.  Arrogance tries to impress others, title-driven egos, while confident people walk their talk and perform as humble leaders should.  People who are secure in themselves do not need to brag about their abilities.  They let their work and actions speak for them.

True confidence respects others, continues to learn, and remains humble when improvement is needed.  Humble people know they have a lot to learn and will never stand on the side of pride and say there is nothing more, I know it all.

​When confidence is built on commitment and discipline, it becomes stable and grounded rather than fragile and defensive.  Watch the face of someone who is prideful. When you challenge their ideas with something stronger, they are immediately defeated.  Then watch someone who is confident and humble; when challenged, they will step back and say something like, ‘That’s a great idea, I never thought about that,’ and still be enthusiastic.